My counseling sessions have been spiced up with a mental and characteristic blend of quite interesting young ladies. In many discussions with these submissive, eloquently posed, beautiful women, I have uncovered a variable, yet deep seated emotive drive towards men and life in general. This unforeseen, mind-blowing similar cognitive thinking that has clutched young women’s psychological makeup that they, “Want A Readymade Man”, has wowed my senses beyond my existential being.
Traditionally or culturally for all things that matter, what is known is that; a woman and a man court each other, the man playing the biggest role, before reaching a mutually agreeable position that will enable them to build a relationship, luckily commencing a life together, through hard work, sweat and tears. All things acquired through a strategically planned mutually agreed upon loving relationship.
Now, what is this new premise that young ‘gold-digging’ women are coming up with, “A Readymade Man” In all essence this damn-founded principle makes women seem unrealistic, overtly pretentious, greedy beings in this world. Everyone wants a fabulous life with their loved ones, however if women intentionally pursue men that are readymade – meaning wealthy, then the foundation of love is not there at all, except materialistic in form. What woman in their right senses, wants to have a man that they don’t know anything about, and how they acquired their riches. It is what makes young women pester married women’s relationships with their husbands.
It’s these, “I Want A Readymade Man” young women, that breakup marriages that were built through a long emotional journey, at times a rollercoaster, of sweat and tears, between two people that have a goal with their love and their life. These young women flaunt what married men have been craving from their liaison, promising to be different in every way, enticing a psychologically beaten man, that has forgotten how it feels like to be young, to sink-their-teeth into that apple. “A Readymade Man” seeking a new adventure with their young flashy pick-pocket in hand, playing ‘sugar-daddy’ with a wife and children at home.
Truth be told, it’s really not happening. We all want a brilliantly ‘readymade’ life; however it will not come without working hard and this applies to love and marriage too. Life unfortunately does not come with ‘readymade’ packages of men and loving relationships, these things are built through long conversations, mutual understanding and a lot of compromise by each individual in that relationship, of course accompanied by acting-love.
A friend on Facebook argued that ‘human-beings were not meant to be monogamous’, which is a strong fundamental point, seeing how life has driven women and men apart due to adultery, and a quite argumentative point, with the number of people infected with a the virus around the world, some acquiring it within their marriage.
What young submissive, eloquently posed, beautiful women do not comprehend is that “A Readymade Man” comes with a lot of emotional baggage and deep scars that are mentally glued, which are tough to scrape away. It’s a case of, ‘you can’t teach an old dog new tricks’ It’s best to get a new puppy and teach them what you do like, and don’t like whilst adoring them at the same time. Consequently some of your expectations will be met; however it is not guaranteed either.
To all you young spunky submissive, eloquently posed, beautiful women, a ‘Readymade Man’ is, in most cases a marriage man, therefore chasing a kept man isn’t such a good idea. The type of love you will receive will be materialistic and distant from what you had envisaged. Chase personality not material attainment, then the things you wish for in life will reach realistic fruitful fruition. Anyway, the world is filled with people that are chasing paper, orgies and creating broken families, without a care in the wind. Do you want to contribute to breaking up another marriage as a young lady?
WORD TO A NEW NEW-LOVE REVOLUTION
By Linda Sakazi Thwala
