At times we have to take precautions for things that we say or do; recourse for things that we do or aim to do, and this applies to being a boyfriend, a husband and a father. The implications of saying something to your loved one, then do something totally different to the contrary, can have dire consequences, not only to you as an individual but, to everyone that admires you as a person.
Take a ‘dawg’ as a metaphor for instance – a ‘dawg’ that barks viciously at anyone or anything that comes in their path or appears unexpectedly, then suddenly attacks, that is not facetious, its brutality with rabies. A man that sells their face on things that they do not intend on keeping, bears similar traits of a vicious deadly dawg, that will attack unexpectedly, hurting everyone in their path.
The desire to be the best father in the world transverse with keeping your word and is attached to what is known as the emotional-self. The emotional-self, especially in children needs a willing father figure, with a supportively willing mother figure. Failure to give the emotional-self a supportive base, leads the self lacking in any form of love or meaningful contact, thus leads the self to what is known as ‘emotional deprivation’ – mutating an individual’s self to what I call the ‘Dawg of Self’.
A dawg of self is a penny-pinching, selfish, unruly and unemotional man that leaves a woman to raise their children on their own, or any individual that care nothing about other people’s psychological welfare. A man that grew up in an emotionally deprived environment, without a father figure, is most likely to experience emotional instability when dealing with emotional attachment, when women are involved, therefore are the individuals that are prone to repeat the circle of emotional deprivation. The implications of saying something to your child, then do something totally different to the contrary of what was promised, can have dire consequences, due to individual irresponsibility. (This does not apply to all male figures)
Emotional deprivation leads an individual’s emotions in disarray and can lead to a depressive state at times. To some individuals, emotional deprivation of any kind can create what is known as emotional bias or hatred towards a specific thing (s), person (s), or group (s) and can be devastating for an individual to carry, emotionally and psychologically. An individual’s behavior turns to move away from the normality and expectancy of their responsibility. Self emotional deprivation brings an untimely death to an individual, years before their actual death.
Parents, who become parents when they are not ready or without the assistance from their elders, draw negatively on their shortcoming, consequently become angry at themselves or the world thus applies their selfish acts upon others, particularly their own children. An individual’s anger that was shaped from their emotional deprivation, does filter through to their children; constituting to some form of abuse or limitation to their children – the dawg of self.
A man (or a woman for that matter) that sells their words on things that they do not intend on keeping, bears similar traits of a vicious deadly dawg, that will attack unexpectedly, hurting everyone in their path; ultimately destroying the emotional self and the purpose of the self.
We all go through emotional deprivations that forge and merge our personality with other coexisting personalities, either in a good way or a wrong way, in this habitual place called life. A recourse for the self, to emotional deprivation, that mutates the self into the ‘dawg of self’, is acknowledging your position and feelings about how you as an individual were raised to eliminate emotional instability. To reach an emotional resolution or emotional maturity one needs to create a loving environment, where the self will find contentment and self prosperity. Let’s take precaution and dually responsible action to our actions.
WORD TO THE NEW DAWG REVOLUTION
By Linda Sakazi Thwala
