Is
having multiple partners a norm these days? There’s an alarming number of
people, individuals that find it an acceptable thing to pursue other people’s
partners and engage in noncommittal sexual romps with or without protection. The
worst part about this free association with noncommittal partners, or “Fuck Buddy/Buddies”
as it is labelled; is this open-mindedness approach by communities and society
as a whole about having multiple sexual partners – which has created a more
complex problem of juvenile sexual activity.
This
alarming rate of tolerance towards immoral sexual behaviour is what led and
still leads communities to an acrimonious increase in sexual transmitted
diseases, and the spread of the AIDS/H.I.V
pandemic.
The
“Fuck Buddy” phenomenon was initiated during American’s “Psychedelic” era, and
more prevalent with the much revered and revolted “Hippies Era”, throughout 1960s and 1970s;
which largely associated free sexual associations, with whomever you wanted to,
anywhere, at anytime with drug use. Getting stoned and getting a natural high. Although
others would argue that it has been an old age clandestine occurrence (i.e.
Roman Empire Era).
In
the stream of this degenerate moral dilemma of free sexual association, many
babies were born without fathers, many marriages crumbled. Many found pleasure
in sexual orgies with numerous partners. Many people lost their sense of
belonging, due to the free spirited notion that the drugs gave them. Many
Sexually Transmitted Diseases (S.T.D) and Sexual Transmitted Infections (S.T.I)
were acquired and discovered – leading
to the discovery of the HIV virus and its devastating epoch, in the early 1970’s
and early 1980’s globally – to the present.
This
“Fuck Buddy” concept has become overrated in today’s society, and has created several
problems within social standings, westernised governments with their mental and
physical health fraternities.
Today’s
generation – men and women do not respect the sacredness of sexuality and
intercourse with only their chosen partners. Another widespread voluble notion
amongst people is that: “As long as I use protection, I can sleep with whomever
I want!”, which ultimately leads to unprotected sex between various indiscreet
“Fuck Buddies”; leading to more people acquiring the H.I.V virus, and more
people dying from Aids.
Touching
another person intimately, whether be it a buddy or lover, develops feelings
that do not end with just casual sex, with a noncommittal partner –
disrespecting unfaithfulness to your partner.
In
Zulu, there is a saying that goes: “Imphahla yeny’indoda iyahlonishwa”, literary
meaning “Another man’s luggage must be respected”, figuratively meaning “What
belongs to another, must be respected”
A lack
of respect for another man’s wife or another woman’s husband, has led to people
disrespecting their partners and losing self-respect by chasing other men or
women for sexual purposes, and personal
pleasure - creating an immoral predicament, which has scarred and
continue to scar our communities beyond any psychological and physiological measures.
Don’t
get me wrong – there’s nothing wrong about sex and having sex, however its very
wrong having multi-partners, plus-minus protection.
WORD
TO A NEW SEXUAL REVOLUTION
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