Having children is a life changing decision that needs, two, if not one
strong-headed couple, or individuals to jump
into. Like marriage, having children can alter one’s outlook on life and decision-making process because, when you have children , they most
likely will come first in whatever move or decision you make. Having children is a life changing decision.
Can an individual be an outcast for deciding ‘not to have
children’?
Well, it seems that a number of individuals who choose not to have
children are subjected to some form of abuse, one way or another. This abuse
can come from a family member, a friend or friends, work colleagues, your peers
and in some cases, neighbours.
It is true that when you don’t
have children, you have time in your hands to do whatever your heart desires during
your leisure times. It is equally true that, when you don’t have children you
can actually have more money to spend towards anything you want or need because
you can afford it. Conversely, some
couples or individuals cannot, cannot afford to have their own children.
Individuals who feel the struggle of bearing children, and the humongous responsibility that comes with “having
children” , can be shrew towards those who can’t bear children, towards those who
will be financially incapable to provide
for their own children, if they had them.
Some ill-hearted individuals feel that it is socially unacceptable if a
couple or an individual doesn’t have children, when they themselves are fully
fledged, and can take care of themselves.
It is a well-known fact that some babies are conceived, without any
formative plan, and are branded a ‘problem’ and in some cases are left on the side of the
road to be picked up by a drifter motorist or pedestrian, then taken to a
Children’s Home - the worst scenario: these ‘problem’ babies are left to die and
do die because, no one saves them.
Personally, I don’t have children because, I feel that having children
is a very significant arrangement between two individuals, that can alter their
progress in life, for the worst or for the good, taking into cognisance, the
little person or little people that you are bringing into this world.
I personally feel , one needs to have children with an individual that
is prepared to compromise; prepared to be willingly be a mother or father; prepared to provide for their
child (ren) ; prepared to strive to be emotionally and physically available. Be
prepared to love and protect no matter what happens.
When you have children doesn’t mean that the next individual that doesn’t
is no human being and is an outcast. Labelling those who don’t have children as
outcasts, creates a bias social cohesion
– a social cohesion which is initially base on choice.
WORD TO THE LET’S HAVE CHILDREN
REVOLUTION
Linda Sakazi Thwala
Contact: 0719727764
e-mail: lindasakazithwala@gmail.com
Contact: 0719727764
e-mail: lindasakazithwala@gmail.com
