AN OUTCAST..... FOR NOT HAVING CHILDREN

Having children is a life changing decision that needs, two, if not one strong-headed  couple, or individuals to jump into. Like marriage, having children can alter one’s outlook  on life and decision-making process because, when you have children , they most likely will come first in whatever move or decision you make. Having children is a life changing decision.

Can an individual be an outcast for deciding ‘not to have children’? 

Well, it seems that a number of individuals who choose not to have children are subjected to some form of abuse, one way or another. This abuse can come from a family member, a friend or friends, work colleagues, your peers and in some cases, neighbours.

 It is true that when you don’t have children, you have time in your hands to do whatever your heart desires during your leisure times. It is equally true that, when you don’t have children you can actually have more money to spend towards anything you want or need because you can afford it. Conversely,  some couples or individuals cannot, cannot afford to have their own children.

Individuals who feel the struggle of bearing children, and the  humongous responsibility that comes with “having children” , can be shrew towards those who can’t bear children, towards those who will  be financially incapable to provide for their own children, if they had them.

Some ill-hearted individuals feel that it is socially unacceptable if a couple or an individual doesn’t have children, when they themselves are fully fledged, and can take care of themselves.        

  

It is a well-known fact that some babies are conceived, without any formative plan, and are branded a ‘problem’  and in some cases are left on the side of the road to be picked up by a drifter motorist or pedestrian, then taken to a Children’s Home - the worst scenario: these ‘problem’ babies are left to die and do die because, no one saves them.

Personally, I don’t have children because, I feel that having children is a very significant  arrangement  between two individuals, that can alter their progress in life, for the worst or for the good, taking into cognisance, the little person or little people that you are bringing into this world.

I personally feel , one needs to have children with an individual that is prepared to compromise; prepared to be willingly be  a mother or father; prepared to provide for their child (ren) ; prepared to strive to be emotionally and physically available. Be prepared to love and protect no matter what happens.       

When you have children doesn’t mean that the next individual that doesn’t is no human being and is an outcast. Labelling those who don’t have children as outcasts,  creates a bias social cohesion – a social cohesion which is initially base on choice.

WORD TO THE LET’S HAVE CHILDREN REVOLUTION

Linda Sakazi Thwala

Contact: 0719727764
e-mail: lindasakazithwala@gmail.com