RELATIONSHIPS, LOVE, MONEY, POWER

Relationships, love, money and power, have a different meaning in today’s South Africa, compared to a decade or two decades ago – moreover, the past patriarchal century.

Women are proclaiming their ‘God given’ feminine power and are not scared to put it to action. And women are taking their position as leaders and engineers of social change – a not so intimidating democratic right.

However, some women have aimed to achieve relationship, love, money, and power autonomy to a much alarming contempt to men’s existence in their lives. A concerning position for men who support women’s rights and women in totality as equal partners in every sphere of society and social standing.     

A Loving relationship and family relationship is hard to form these days due to dynamic shift to social attitudes towards men being manly in their loving and family relationships - mostly attributed to money in the relationship, which filters to power in both relationships.

When a man exhibit signs of being manly, they are either showy or abusive in nature, forgetting that this is a man’s inherent nature.

In a loving relationship: Building a life with anyone is a complex, transcendent reality and personality altering experience. To have a life with anyone, one has to be content with their partner as their lover – have contentment for their love and their relationship.

If one is not content with their relationship and partner, nothing will ever be achieved because this will lead to a very complicated existence in that relationship - leading to communication breakdown.

At times this leads to a ‘screaming-contest’ when issues are raised, most likely a physical duel.

There are women who, without being stereotypical, will at the hands of money and power, become vindictive abusers of children and men themselves. And equally have no regards to children and men’s rights.

Democracy is still an infant to the South African mind and practicality, hence you find women that see a chance to autonomy as a means of bulldozing every man’s peace and democratic right as nonsensical.

Women must remember this: An abusive man is a man that will not allow you to be yourself at any particular time and space when they are around you. An abusive man, will always want to control you sexually. An abusive man, will always control who you associate with and places you go to.

To my brother in South Africa and around the world; if she has money and power over you and thinks you “NOTHING”, walk away. Do not perpetuate the scourge of abusive behaviour. Don’t lose yourself pride and dignity. Keep it intact. Walk away.......

WORD TO THE #METOO #ENOUGHISENOUGH #BROTHER4LIFE #NOTINMYNAME REVOLUTION 

Linda Sakazi Thwala