KHWEZI NGWENYA: ONE OF SOUTH AFRICA’S TOP25 MODELS FOR 2012

            KHWEZI NGWENYA         Photo by: Yaseen

  Interview with Sakazi

 

As news came through that Khwezi Ngwenya has been chosen as one of South Africa’s Top25 Models for the 2012 Top Model Search campaign, Linda Sakazi Thwala took some time out to get to know this stunning modelling fashionista.

Arminda Nokhwezi Ngwenya, popularly known as Khwezi Ngwenya, was born in King Edward Hospital Durban, KwaZulu-Natal, South Africa. She is a daughter of Andrias Ngoma Ngwenya and the late Jabu Kubheka. Her father is a migrant worker from Mozambique Maputo, and her mother is from Dundee, KwaZulu-Natal, South Africa.

She has two sisters, Nolwandle and Lwandle, and half-brothers, Qiniso, Ayanda, Lungelo - and a half-sister Mpilo Ngwenya.

Q: When did it all start?

A: It all started formally in 2007 though I did my first show end of 2006 at the Durban playhouse.

I was trained by Models International Agency, I completed my Beginner, Intermediate and Advance Modelling Diploma in 2007. I've done fashion shows ,photo shoots, promotion and beauty pageants. I also dance Ballroom.

Q: What inspires Khwezi?

A: I find inspiration in more things than I can count, I'm inspired by any successful person , people that work hard and make something out of nothing, but what keeps me going the most lately are the young ladies and gents that love what I do, that inbox me on Facebook, Twitter and BBM, that ask for tips on how to get where I am. In actual fact I can’t see where I am in life , the only time a person realizes how far is when the next person tells you. Lastly, I work hard just to better my younger brother and sisters lives. I want them to be able to look up to me and be proud!! I love Tyra Banks work, I want to be the South African Tyra Banks if not better.

Q: What influences led you to pursue a fashion/ramp career?

A: As a teenager I had very low self esteem. I was always the tallest in my class and amongst my mates and I was very skinny and my dad would cut my hair really short. So I always felt like I didn't look as attractive as other kids. So one day in Matric I picked up a student newspaper "free4all" , they had an article of Models international class and a entry form. Then, I had just started my first job at the Hilton Hotel, filled in the form and sent it. I wanted to face my biggest fear then, to stand in front of people and have them judge me. I did 3 modelling courses "Beginner, Intermediate, Advanced" - I passed all three very well as was one of the better students in my class and then I took it from there. I had a lot of help and motivation. At that time I looked up to Nosipho Dlamini from Models International as she had won model of the year, 2007. She was also my teacher when I did my classes at models International…

Q: How many fashion campaigns have you been involved in, thus far?

A: I have done a lot of pageants which resulted in me winning 1st,2nd and 3rd place. I have done a lot of fashion shows. I have done many shoots as well as personal shoots. One that I'm seen around often is a hair shoot that I did in 2010 but I started seeing the posters in 2011 and 2012. I have done body painting for the Rugby Sharks campaign.

Some of the Fashion shows and beauty pageant that I have done include: Miss uShaka 2011; Miss Camlot 2008; Miss Durban 2008; Miss Durban 2009; Face of Coming Out Promotions 2007; Face of Revlon; Miss Tropica; Miss Vacca Mata; KZN top model of the year; Mr Price O31 fashion show; SMME Fashion Show; Durban July 2008 – present; Durban July pre-fashion shows 2011-present; Eastern Rendezvous ; KYD fashion shows and many more…

Magazines: Future Bride 2009 - 2010 edition and newspapers articles , Mag articles "Sharks Mag - Durban July 2010 - Slasher Girl"; Posters Hair Salons 2011-2012.

I get involved with community work "teaching girls how to model", judging pageants, eg: MR / Miss DUT inter-res , MR / Miss Mahlongwe in South Coast and many more.


Q: Is your fashion effort limited to ramps and photo-shoots only? Or do you also pursue spontaneous fashion advertising, e.g. Wearing a recently knitted dress to social event?

A: Its not limited. I'm spontaneous. I work with any idea that comes up. Most designers that I have worked with dress me for events that I attend and as well as doing community work judging pageants, e.g. MR/Miss DUT inter-res , MR/Miss Mahlongwe in south coast and many more.

Q: What’s the aim of it all – why modelling?

A: Modelling is a platform for me to change the way people think about models and modeling as an industry. It has taught me a lot as a person, helping me to gain confidence and appreciate people. It gave me the need of wanting to put a smile on someone else’s face, and that the smallest positive action you do to the next person can change the world. For me it does not end here, I'm still going to work twice as hard so I can influence more young people to be positive, confident, strong , to believe in themselves and that they should not forget that we serve an amazing GOD!

Q: Why so much ambition on fashion and modelling?

A: Modelling and ballroom dancing gave me sense of style in everything I do. It made me respect and love myself , also appreciate the unique way God has build me.

Q: Your motto in life?

A: I Live life for today as I never know what tomorrow will bring for me. I know that I am as happy as I make up my mind to be. I do justly, love mercy, I walk humbly with my God and I never stop smiling because, I never know who is falling in love with my smile. I Live, Love, Laugh and have lots of fun. In life one has to start somewhere, I don't let my past or up-bring define the person I am today.

Q: What type of movies and music inspire you?

A: Apart from horror flicks, I appreciate all genres of movies. Movies that expand on many themes. I listen to a bit of everything. I love instrumental music like jazz. I love meaningful music, in particular R&B, and I dance to house music.

Q: Do you cook ?

A: Yes I can cook and I do cook. In fact I love cooking , when I cook I go all out. I love cooking pasta, chicken and baking.

Q: Who’s your favourite author and genre of books?

A: At the moment I’m reading “Don’t waste your life” by JOHN PIPER, I’m enjoying it so much....I wanna get hold of MODEL LAND by Tyra Bank.  

Q: What are your favourite colours?

A: Green , black and gold .... I mostly have green nails , I love gold eye shadow "with natural colours", and I love wearing black and my hair is always black.

Khwezi attended Roseland Primary School in Newlands, Durban and attended Dundee Secondary High School after her mother’s death, before her and her family headed back to Durban where she finished her uniformed schooling at Futura High School.

She has a National Diploma in Information Technology , National Diploma in Systems Engineering and she is a Professional Model who spans her trade between Fashion Model "Ramp" , Photographic Model "Shoots", Beauty Pageants and Body Painting.

WORD TO KHWEZI NGWENYA’S MODELLING REVOLUTION 

Linda Sakazi Thwala 

Websites:
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South Africa's Top Model finale will be happening on the 25th August 2012.

Linda Sakazi Twala 

THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER IS…...

The truth of the matter is, relationships are very hard and very complex to maintain in today’s world, especially when one goes into a particular relationship not knowing what they want. Others have their own ulterior motives that sometime work for their advantage, but at times do the most unwanted damage.

  

It’s good to be in a relationship that is complex with growth and fun loving. However, if a relationship that is doomed from the start, one will never find peace of mind and heart because it will be an enduring struggle from its initiation, until its destined breakup.

When you go into a relationship with an individual that is emotionally unstable, and has a number of unwanted past and present ghosts in their closet, your fate in the relationship is enveloped, sealed and delivered like a forecasted Tsunami, only to arrive at the wrong time.

Regrettably, in a relationship your partner will never be the perfect person that you’ve always wished for, notwithstanding the emotional and physical appeasement that one tables without guard or caution for the sake of being in love and being loved. Your partner can never be the Mister Right or the Miss Right, and can never give you the right needs and wants when you require them, as much as you can never be at a particular point in time.

It’s what we do in our relationships that makes us the right person for the person we are with at that particular juncture.

A self-imposed emotional and physical degradation is initiated through not knowing what one wants and needs in their  particular relationships, more especially, a loving relationship. When you go into a serious relationship not knowing what direction you want that ‘relationship’ to take you or carry you, your moral fibre will be tattered by the confines and confusion of indecision.

Indecision leads one to dilly-dally between a true love: one that offers safety and shelter, warmth, good sex, a progressive conversation and stability. With a seemingly promising heated love relational, that doesn’t provide the essentials of a grounded relationship with stability.    

One needs to be committal and be grounded to one partner, to finding a transcending-love that aims for real growth and stability to alleviate relationship strife and emotional storm of numerous partners, and unwanted sexual activity.

The truth of the matter is, loving relationships do matter. However, what matters the most is: Are you the right matter in that loving relationship?

WORD TO A NEW RELATIONSHIP MATTER REVOLUTION

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WHAT’S HAPPENING MY PERSONALITY!

When I was fourteen, I picked up a book that spoke about ‘multiple-personality disorder’ – at that particular moment in time, I had never delved into the confirms of hidden personalities with a one mind, one bodied individual, with a varying emotionally shape-shifting presence.

This was a true-life account of what happened to this little girl that learnt to emotionally shape-shift to hide the violent nature of her home existence – a drunk of a father and an emotionally, verbally abusive mother. Thus, she created personalities that will hide her real self and take over in mentally and emotionally overwhelming situations.

Does this notion apply to individuals who create a surreal environment as an escapism from their daily demanding and strenuous lives? Do people who overindulge in the name of fun, hence forget or claim to have forgotten what happened the previous day anecdotes of ‘multiple-personality disorder’?

Its seems that more and more people are prone to indulge in inappropriate behaviour as an escapism to this globosely mentally and emotionally overwhelming situations of everyday living.

Some people hide the fact that they have personalities that makes them pinchers, only to psychologically shape-shift at a secretive moment, or when the time to pinch arrives. Others find themselves in clothes which are meant for the other sex. Others hide the fact that they are sex maniacs, who indulge in romps of sexual activity without throwing a caution to the wind – when they get caught, it’s all denial: “It was the other person that did it, not me.” When in actual fact the tell-tale signs of putting the hand in the cookie-jar are right there, there in front of them.      

The most fascinating part about this ‘multiple-personality’ psyche, is the link between traditional norms of mysticism and one’s ability to go into a trans-state, therefore allowing ancestral spirits to communicate with the living through an individual’s body. Scholar of psychology claim that this ability to commune with the dead as a mere symptom of ‘mental debilitation’ or ‘mental disease’ i.e. schizophrenia.

Is spiritual visitation part of this ‘multiple-personality’ accretion to the madness of this world and humanity’s assumptions of finding an unknown place to hide? A representation of death.

A legion of thought framework, coupled by a traumatic experience can lead an individual’s neurological pathways to criss-cross and find an escapism within its self – an alternate personality. As to whether natural mischief can be accounted to ‘multiple-personality disorder’ that is another hypothesis – in knowing or not knowing.

   

With all the indifference that has overwhelmed the world and destroyed people’s lives – one could not help but wonder if people forget who they are – psychologically shape-shift, only wake up to realise what they’ve done.

WORD TO A NEW PERSONALITY REVOLUTION

By Linda Sakazi Thwala


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ULTERIOR MOTIVES THAT LEAD TO SOCIAL FRAILTY

The vignettes of social interaction have in many ways evolved and transgressed to the most mundane, and the most obsessed, obnoxious interactions - lingering to the sick social, psychopathic instability. Psychosocial tendencies have been affected by the lack of moral values in family life, and community standing.

Many people enter the scene of social life to gain experience and improve their communiqué skills; to gain more friends; to advance their human knowledge and find uniformity in their spiritual, emotional, and physical existential matters.      

  

However, in the past decades, more and more people are prone to commit repugnant social-ills and fall some people for prey to such social-ills. Psychosocial tendencies have in previous years led to a fundamental psychological question:

Do you as an individual enter another person’s life with ulterior motives, to reach your ill-begotten ambitions, no matter what happens or the consequences there off? Or do you enter a person’s life to motivate, inspire and uplift their livelihood: sustain and bring stability to them?

There are some individuals that go out of their way to use social interaction through various networks, including close-contact to prey on other individuals sexually and physically violently by luring them into their lives, pretending to be friends but at the end just bare psychosexual predators, and stalkers.

Social Networks such as ToGo, Mixit, Twitter, Facebook and WhatsApp et al. – have been used to lure people to private mysterious places then preyed on sexually and physically at times leading to murder.   

    

We are the conversant images of our spiritual selves. What affects the emotional, physical and mental – touches on the inherent spiritual side. Technology preys on this notion to make one whole gain; creating an emotional vulnerability that needs a physical presence to ease the emotional, physical, mental and spiritual yearning, and neglect.     

At times, emotional vulnerability is an after effect of all the storms of verbal, physical and emotional abuse – we humans do not really grasp the thin veil that constitute and separate “Real Love” and “Obsession Love”. Thus, in Loving someone, we use emotional ordnance to hide the abuse and pain that has lingered to that has lingered for years, and has gnawed on the emotional stability that keeps one sane, therefore fragmenting the very little ground they stand on – their world.

The worst part about this psychosocial instability is that, the person that scarred the perpetrator doesn’t get the same punishment they gave or pleads for forgiveness. They get away with the most atrocious crime of abuse, and the abuse, the perpetrator takes it out on the wrong person.

WORD TO A NEW PSYCHOSOCIAL EXISTENCE REVOLUTION

By Linda Sakazi Thwala     

SPELLING IT CLASS! _ C.O.R.P.O.R.A.L – CORPORAL PUNISHMENT!!!

Corporal Punishment was a sore thumb in a not so distant past, as a disciplinary mechanism within the Bantu Education schooling system in the helm of the Apartheid administration. Will the amendment of Corporal Punishment bring change in our schools or improve the standards of learning in our education system?

Many Black students were disparaged psychologically, to attend school due to the callousness that teachers and headmasters took to administer discipline, through a sjambok or a well smoothen twig that was smacked to the buttocks or the hand of the punished scholar.     

Pupils were punished for various misdemeanours, one being incompetence in doing their homework, or failing to answer a question connected to a particular subject, and content of discussion in class. This practice of corporal punishment was at times pushed to the precincts of brutal abuse by teachers who had grudges towards their pupils.

An ethnic indifference usually brought a division amongst teacher and student, thus the child was given a thrashing, because he or she is from such and such tribe or ethnic group. Others were beaten for stating their political, education ideals or for voicing out their disagreements against the state of affairs.   

The worst part about corporal punishment was experienced when a dyslexic or autistic student was given this same treatment for failing to comprehend the content at hand – creating a traumatic neurotic dilemma for the child that’s already in a world of innate confusion.      

I remember when I was a youngster, attending Bantu schools: Thulisa Primary School and Endulwini Primary School in Katlehong and Tembisa, respectively. When students were summoned to the principal’s office - one could hear sonorous cries of a youngster, fending off pain from a stick that was specially crafted for this atrocities deed, called punishment.

In one occasion, a student was beaten on both her hands, and she left school with both hands severely swollen, with red cracks on both, for being cheeky and chatty towards the teacher. She rubbed onion on those hands, I was told.

When I started school I was very much of an introvert and I had a problem with my hand writing, because I loved drawing so much that when I want to write I would end up turning the written text into a rough sketch, therefore my books looked all neat, but raggedy inside. My then, teacher did not understand and failed to give me guidance on how to improve on my handwriting – for this reason, she saw it fit to beat me up until I could write properly. This went on until my grandfather intervened by coming to the school and warning my teacher that she must stop abusing me. My handwriting did improve and I become a star pupil. (other teachers told me I had a doctor’s handwriting)  

Although our generation was beaten at school, it was a rare thing to find that a scholar dropout for being punished. Why? A group of boys was sent to one’s house to go collect a ‘deserter’ and bring them back to school if that happened. In one odd occasion, one child ran away from home and become a street-kid, because he was given a hiding  at school for not having done their homework, and a thrashing at home for spending too much time in the streets with his friends.        

        

A review on the constitutionality of corporal punishment as a legislative measure to instil discipline and improve our education system; into our South African education structure will need a much needed discourse, debates amongst government officials, school headmasters, parents, children and a national referendum, that will cement or reject the Corporal Punishment Law as a mechanism to punish our children in school.

WORD TO A NEW EDU-DISCIPLINARY MEASURE REVOLUTION

By Linda Sakazi Thwala   

  

SELF-RESPECT AND RESPECTING ANOTHER’S SEXUAL PARTNER

Is having multiple partners a norm these days? There’s an alarming number of people, individuals that find it an acceptable thing to pursue other people’s partners and engage in noncommittal sexual romps with or without protection. The worst part about this free association with noncommittal partners, or “Fuck Buddy/Buddies” as it is labelled; is this open-mindedness approach by communities and society as a whole about having multiple sexual partners – which has created a more complex problem of juvenile sexual activity. 

This alarming rate of tolerance towards immoral sexual behaviour is what led and still leads communities to an acrimonious increase in sexual transmitted diseases, and the spread of the AIDS/H.I.V  pandemic.

The “Fuck Buddy” phenomenon was initiated during American’s “Psychedelic” era, and more prevalent with the much revered and revolted  “Hippies Era”, throughout 1960s and 1970s; which largely associated free sexual associations, with whomever you wanted to, anywhere, at anytime with drug use. Getting stoned and getting a natural high. Although others would argue that it has been an old age clandestine occurrence (i.e. Roman Empire Era).  

In the stream of this degenerate moral dilemma of free sexual association, many babies were born without fathers, many marriages crumbled. Many found pleasure in sexual orgies with numerous partners. Many people lost their sense of belonging, due to the free spirited notion that the drugs gave them. Many Sexually Transmitted Diseases (S.T.D) and Sexual Transmitted Infections (S.T.I) were acquired and discovered  – leading to the discovery of the HIV virus and its devastating epoch, in the early 1970’s and early 1980’s globally – to the present.

This “Fuck Buddy” concept has become overrated in today’s society, and has created several problems within social standings, westernised governments with their mental and physical health fraternities.

Today’s generation – men and women do not respect the sacredness of sexuality and intercourse with only their chosen partners. Another widespread voluble notion amongst people is that: “As long as I use protection, I can sleep with whomever I want!”, which ultimately leads to unprotected sex between various indiscreet “Fuck Buddies”; leading to more people acquiring the H.I.V virus, and more people dying from Aids.

Touching another person intimately, whether be it a buddy or lover, develops feelings that do not end with just casual sex, with a noncommittal partner – disrespecting unfaithfulness to your partner.

In Zulu, there is a saying that goes: “Imphahla yeny’indoda iyahlonishwa”, literary meaning “Another man’s luggage must be respected”, figuratively meaning “What belongs to another, must be respected”

A lack of respect for another man’s wife or another woman’s husband, has led to people disrespecting their partners and losing self-respect by chasing other men or women for sexual purposes, and personal  pleasure - creating an immoral predicament, which has scarred and continue to scar our communities beyond any psychological and physiological measures.   

Don’t get me wrong – there’s nothing wrong about sex and having sex, however its very wrong having multi-partners, plus-minus protection.

WORD TO A NEW SEXUAL REVOLUTION

By Linda Sakazi Thwala 

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WHEN THE SECURE IS THE INSECURE

Should a partner protecting his partner from latter-day social ills be deemed “insecure”, due to the change of the status quo of social and political interactions? What then does it mean to be a protector in a relationship when the “secure” is acquainted and galvanised as the “insecure”, when arguing the dangers that could place each partner to their premature deliberate destruction? 

Does that mean the protector is a dictator? At times a protector is reduced to a dictator – a mental, emotional, and physical quandary called a “prisoner’s dilemma” holdback on the immoral and do the moral or do the immoral regardless the penalty that will be suffered.

The one that thinks that they are being imprisoned will always want to break free from the manacles of perceived suppression. 

A rebellious child for example: no matter what you say to that child right or wrong, you are always wrong until the predicted word of experience leap into life. Then, confusion and more rebellion - ultimately self-destruction. Unless, a lesson is learnt and a way to reconcile the emotional with the spiritual is found.

An old age light – when old age wisdom is not coherent enough, the rebellious will try to alter the course of old age knowing, thinking that they will be victor, when in actual fact they are just bending and prolonging the path of wisdom that will inevitably reach its knowable destination.     

    

Why is it that commonsense doesn’t make no sense, until one finds themselves in a lot nonsense? This coherent wisdom is commonsense, and not matter what a cheating partner may tell you, being a protector of your won and your relationship, in a responsible way doesn’t mean you are “insecure”. Why? A cheater will use such a word (insecure), to make you feel doubt in your mind and heart about their indiscretion about you and your relationship. 

It’s like a Drug Addict: You can’t tell a druggy to go rehab by force, it has to be from within the druggy to get clean. If the druggy is not committed their own rehabilitation, then the druggy will blame the people that are trying to help the druggy, and therefore relapse days after release from the Rehabilitation House. The Druggy is “insecure”, which mean unstable mentally and emotional. And that manifests its self in the druggy’s physical behavior. An equitable quality to a sex addict, that goes around bedding different people relentlessly – condom or no condom.      

A cheater will always defend their insecurity by making you feel as though you are the insecure and paranoid one, when in fact they are really cheating. 

WORD TO A SECURE RELATIONSHIP REVOLUTION 

By Linda Sakazi Thwala

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