CHANGING THE SELF: Self-criticism

Falling into the frenzy of self-pity can be a wicked emotional and psychological knock-out blow for an individual that has witnessed trauma beyond their wildest existence. In the mist of self-pity, lingers self-doubt and self-criticism; blaming and beating yourself for the things that you have done.

Self-criticism is all about an individual acknowledging and responding to critics or responses on the things that they have done in their lives. Criticism come in two different forms – there is constructive criticism, and there is destructive criticism. Constructive criticism aims to build ones character traits and pave the way to their reasonably idyllic future, when destructive criticism aims at violently debilitating and finally exhausting ones character and self.

Destructive criticism is when an individual fails to face up to their own mistakes, thus succumb to blame-shifting, which is one of the major selfish acts an individual can ever do to themselves, their community members, their partner, their family or relatives. When one consistently blames others for their own failure and fall short of owning up to their own doing for the failure, everything they do becomes destructive. Alternatively, destructive criticism is dished out by people surrounding you to make you negatively quill your ambitious ways.

A subtle destructive criticism comes when an individual, persistently beat themselves up emotionally and mentally for abusive things that were done to them by others; at times abusive things that they themselves did without planning to do them; in some cases, failure to achieve their goals in life due to the inability and lack of skills to reach that particular goal, therefore the failure becomes an abrasive stain to their inner self. Condemning themselves into the dark psychological wilderness of self-pity, which at times may lead to suicide.

Constructive criticism also emits mirrored ideological view points with a different psychological aurora each time an individual is criticized. Firstly, constructive criticism comes negatively, when viewed from a personal view point, aimed at criticizing your persona, disapprovingly and not what you do or did, can strengthen your inner self when you learn to overcome it. Which does improve yourself self-belief and self-assertiveness in things that you do – meaning, it bring growth to an individual.

Secondly, when your work or your behavior is criticized constructively, aimed at improving the quality of your work or your behavioral pattern it brings betterment in your pursuit of living your destiny, psychologically, and physically - the type of environment you live in or aim to chase your destined life in. It is constructive criticism from other people, that gives you a different ideological, artistic, stylish view point from what you thought was the accepted, or uncharacteristic that aligns your mental-self, emotional-self to greatness. Constructive criticism separates a genius from the ordinary in the fraternity of thinkers, artists, workers and sporty individuals.

It is important to know that people view a different person differently from what is constituted as being normal in every community. Therefore, an individual that excels or is seen as strange physically, mental and spiritually will be criticized for who they are or what they are. This negative form of criticism is does drive individual to commit cruel psychological and physical atrocities to those different from who or what they are. Leading to psychological and physical trauma.

At a certain point of your life, assiduous critics and psychological constitutional barriers arise; therefore alter your course to self-worth, self-love and transcending love. We all view criticism differently, evidently react differently towards certain critical moments, however when we chose to react negatively towards certain critical moments in our lives, we end up destroying the positive phenomenal aurora aimed a uplifting our Self. Criticism, whether be it noble or wicked can aid in assuring the path of growth for the Self. It all depends on how you take it.

WORD TO A NEW CRITICAL MOMENT ANALYSIS REVOLUTION

By Linda Sakazi Thwala

WITHIN THE JURISDICTION OF THE LAW

Taking the law into your own hands, resides beyond the regular criterion of society at large – it resides in the frameworks of total iniquity . When society fails to adhere to the rules and regulations that are aimed at imparting peace and stability within its jurisdiction, a chaotic state is affirmed.

South Africa has witnessed many such occurrences of a chaotic state in regards to many issues of governance that require more bureaucratic, political attention than others – namely corruption. Decisive steps need to be taken towards municipal, legislative and government malpractice that is very rampant in our society. Bureaucratic, political steps that will assure effective governance to any political order, be it socialistic, capitalistic or democratic (Notwithstanding totalitarians).

Criminal activities and criminals come in many forms, without any doubts, however bureaucratic crime or white-collar crime is one massive driving force behind lesser misdemeanor crimes. Bureaucratic crime, is an instigating pestilence behind vigilantism, which led to numerous unexpected sporadic attacks on foreign-nationals, in many parts of the country. Bureaucratic crimes were fully driving these xenophobic attacks. Many vigilante groups are seen as apolitical, when in actual fact their core stems around politically driven affiliations.

The policing structures of our country, from walk-about policing, to National Intelligence was centralized to focus mainly on what was broad to the fore by the infamous, crime fighting unit, the Scorpions. The Scorpions had a punitive shortcoming with the bureaucratic elite, due to its investigative aptitude, and for enforcing punitive legislative measures upon bureaucratic, political criminals without favoring their aristocratic ranks in society.

The Scorpions unraveled diminutive white-collar crimes which pointed a big tinted finger towards influential heads within the South African political circles; when the puzzle of these diminutive crimes were adjoined to be a compendium of one large bureaucratic misgivings in our political history - which of cause led to the political demise of one beloved African Renaissance’s son. The Scorpion’s sting fell off, when its intelligent head was chopped – giving raise the soothing Hawks.

A bureaucratic crime is discovered, a political head goes to prison, to secretively sweep the conspiracy under - millions of Rands aimed for development go unaccounted for under false companies. Nine months in total bliss, a few shakes here and a few shakes there, Eureka! The bars are off.

The country has seen a neo-Political atmosphere with our commander-in-chief President Jacob Zuma and his appointed, reshuffled and reappointed cabinet of Ministers – with Julius tailing the Mine Nationalization issue with his young bureaucratically ambitious cadres. Capitalism or monocracy?

The major issue with President Zuma’s cabinet is the Media Appeals Tribunal and the newly proposed Information Bill, that will force the Media or journalists, by law to reveal their sources; overtly allow government officials to hide damning information against officials from journalists and the greater public. The frameworks of total iniquity will come with these projected diplomatic legislative chess pieces, that will see South Africa become another China, and Gambia with its freedom of expression curtailed by an authoritarian hand that induces propaganda upon its citizenry.

The jurisdiction of the law can never serve its society fully, when its bureaucratic elite wields the power to impose issues of greater public significance without placing those issues on a Referendum, to weigh-out the pros and cons of those particular issues, within the public domain.

No political party is bigger than the Constitution, the law of the land – accordingly, no political party is exempt from operating within the jurisdiction of the law. In our Democratic State, no bureaucratic heads shall take the law in their own hands, and deem others fit for persecution. The People shall Govern!


WORD TO A NEW LAW ABIDING GOVERNANCE REVOLUTION

By Linda Sakazi Thwala

CHANGING THE SELF - FORGIVENESS

Reaching a correct rational resolution with the Self, takes times when an individual’s emotions, psyche and physical self-love, is in disarray. We do dark things in our lives, that we are not proud of however, in doing so there is always a choice to revert to our old humane Self, if we are prepared to restore the eternal love and everlasting light that has always shone within. Change within the bounds of the Self, is a realistic and an undeniably possible remedy for an individual who is troubled, to eradicate the blueprints of its dark ways. It is all activated by the right attitude towards reconciling your mental faculty, with your emotional faculty – it all starts with Self-forgiveness.

Self-forgiveness, is a thought and life altering process aimed for the betterment of the Mental, Emotional, and Physical. It is an emotionally excruciating task for one to do a mental, emotional and physical introspection and retrospection, of what they have done in their lives to make their inner Self alter its course from reaching the omnipotent light.

To blame yourself for things that you did, because you did not know better or lacked the knowledge of taking the appropriate choice, is not an amusement. It is the seed that spreads the roots of self-loathing, self-alienation and self-destruction. The seed and roots that harvest the fruits of hate and dark persona, which bears the trees of self-annihilation.

When an individual vehemently abhors something or someone, without concrete base of why they detest so much. The darkness within them consumes them, thus dictates the terms of how they will react towards that particular thing or someone. Consequently, the rational is lost, replaced by madness and diabolical thoughts; culminating to an unwanted end.

What does it mean to forgive yourself? Self-forgiveness starts with Self-respect and Self-love. When you respect and love yourself, you see life in a different light, as opposed to hurting and hating everything in it. Self-forgiveness means, recognizing and acknowledging the source of your psychological and spiritual dilemma, and taking ownership for your part. Self-forgiveness means, taking the suitable steps in changing your false psychological and spiritual attitude, towards your behavioral and thinking pattern. Self-forgiveness means, knowing that you own your inner Self, your thinking and emotions – no other person can touch your inner Self, unless you allow them to. Self-forgiveness means, reconstructing the events that took you to a dark place and mending the ‘HOW’ it happened. Self-forgiveness means, reconciling your inner Self with the source, the light; and redeeming yourself from the darkness that has shrouded your soul. Self-forgiveness means, forgiving those that have wronged you and asking forgiveness from those that you have wronged.

Self-forgiveness means, knowing that life is an intellectual and physical game that you have to win, without resorting to ways that will hinder your Self-respect, Self-love, Self-consistency, Self-belief and Transcending-love. Self-forgiveness means bringing peace unto yourself.

To truly forgive yourself, means changing, re-developing your inner Self and your personality in a way that honestly alters erroneous habits. It means to physically act out the inner resolution to forgive yourself, without going overboard, or being too enthusiastic about your psychological and physical recourse.

Kirk Franklin, one of the best Gospel luminaries in the world once noted, “If your inner man catches up with your outer man, then you will be a great man,” It is the inner Self, the light that shines from within that will help you transcend your life to a perpetual plain of Self-love, Self-respect, Self-growth and inner peace.

WORD TO A NEW SELF-FORGIVENESS REVOLUTION

By Linda Sakazi Thwala

SUICIDE AND THE SELF

The mind is a powerful tool that controls every person’s impulses and the functionality of the physic. However, it is the Self that distinguishes and polarizes an individual’s character traits from all other personalities in life. The Self is a personal imprint, synonymous with the fingerprint, the footprint and the eye imprints, with its unique impressions from one individual to the next individual. The mental combined with the inner Self aids in developing a light or a dark personality, with of cause, a very realistic recognition that every mammal, from birth, is bestowed with an inner perpetual light, to love, nurture and restore goodness unto others and the world. So, what turns an individual to be suicidal?

A Suicidal thought is what is known as an ‘Emotional Disorder’, with a very apprehensive, devastating end – mortal death. Suicidal thoughts are initiated by a depressive state that is formed through some kind of emotional deprivation.

An emotional deprivation that was created by a shock or lack of mental/spiritual stimulation, or a hugely Self altering despondency that altered the Self from its innate light to what is known as darkness. The Self needs experience to strive; experience that develops your mind which makes you wiser and fortunate or unwise, therefore misfortunate. And those experiences are forged in a societal environment that each of us exist in – with its dark and light areas.

The Self, which is the beaconing emotive, clandestine, inborn spiritual entity in every individual is shaken by some experiences, that tip the scale of personal light into the darker mental and emotional peripheral areas of existence, which kills hope, eventually reaching the very nucleus of being, the inner light – driving an individual into an emotional paralysis, descending the inner light into a deeper dull emotionally uncontrollable abbacy. Sending the body and mind to a depressive state – an Emotional Disorder.

This occurs to individuals due to the inability to handle unwanted emotional, mental and physical social environmental impacts, such as rape, verbal abuse, alienation, and physical abuse. A supportive notion, that your environment and experiences shape your perception, thus your personality. However, to those individuals that are unhappy about their physical makeup, their self-loathing drags their physical structure to extinguish the light from the Self.

The inability to deal with your emotions, is what is referred to as ‘Emotional Blocking’. When an individual blocks out their emotions, to what is the real course of their emotional state, they go into a state of self-denial and their action, whether be it an emotional outburst or an emotional withdrawal from their environment, makes them lose their physical and their inner emotive inhibitions. Losing control of any situation makes an individual hyper sensitive, consequently pushes them to take irrational action, which in some cases is a disturbing end to the Self.

When an individual falls into a depressive state, it becomes difficult for those around them to reach out and touch the inner dying emotional flames. A psychological retrospection and introspection of an individual through counseling sessions, can help digress steps of a suicidal individual ambling towards a jagged edge, preventing a probable fall to their premature, hopeless, self-loathing death.

Your thinking affects your quality of life and when your thinking fails you, your life and your path to transcending growth fails. This applies to a suicidal situation too. When you cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel, darkness will consume you, destroying your inner light.

Inner strength, that emanates from the original light, the Self; is needed in championing the course to: Self-love, Self-consistency, Emotion-self-expediency and Transcending love. Humanity originates from the unending love of the light. Light, that is the conqueror of darkness, bestowed to every individual at birth. Light, that gives hope in sorrowful moments. Light that doesn’t take but,potently gives life and hope.

WORD TO A NEW SELF RESOLUTION REVOLUTION

By Linda Sakazi Thwala

A RESOLUTION WITH THE PHYSICAL AND THE SELF

Striving for perfection is humankind’s ultimate revolutionary goal to its evolution. Self-regulation and the ability to make sound choices towards yourself development, are the fundamental facets that make you who you are and how others in your environment perceive you. As individuals we are born with different, personal, bodily and mental frameworks that we did not choose, however were by natural selection, presented as a gift to our loved ones for the world to marvel at.

There are individuals that are not happy with their physical makeup and how the universe chose to present them to the world, albeit they are blessed with everything that they want and need in this world. Thus such individuals turn their anger against life and the people around them, in order to alleviate the ‘freakiness’ from the Self or from the physic that carries the Self.

We as humankind can never eliminate the process of Natural Selection in nature. It is through Natural Selection by nature with its natural phenomenon that life is decorated and stylized with the flamboyance of physically gifted folks, mentally gift folks (Geniuses), dwarfs, albinos, the semi-physically disabled, the physically disabled, transgender, transvestites, Gay and Lesbian folks, ordinary folks (argumentative), orators and mutes, outreaching philosophers, pop stars - musicians and film stars. (Although it must be noted that some disabilities are not through natural selection but through accidental happenings that are beyond anyone’s control) It is by this phenomenon that different trends and standards are set in life, which ultimately constructs a societal border between the strivers towards ultimate perfection or self-actualization and those that turn towards self-loathing, self-alienation and self-destruction – the ‘freakiness’ that needs to be alleviated.

The unhappiness that an individual experiences from how they are physically structured by nature, can stem from numerous variables that makes up their psyche – how they perceive the world and its coexisting organic matter, in-turn how the world perceives them – meaning the people in their lives or surroundings. Self-denial forms a huge part of why an individual’s Self wants to hide away from the world, combined with their homogenous makeup, emotional-self and emotional instability. The emotional instability that is formed due to the lack of self-actualization and self-consistency of who they are from the core. Such individuals cannot find contentment in their lives, because of the duality between the Self and the physicality that was naturally selected by nature; therefore their existence leads to a whirlwind of contempt for the Self and social imbalance for that particular individual.

The pursuit for perfection to alter the unassuming errs of nature, drives such individuals to the extreme of all things, where at times their emotional instability can be mistaken for ultra-ambition to achieve the unachievable and tame the untamable, alas it is the definitive cry out for help. Those who do not see the tell-tale signs, will praise and applaud the misdirected and compensate them without knowing the self-loathing that drive the pursuit.

Your thinking affects your quality of life and when your thinking fails you, your life and your path to transcending growth fails. You can definitely change the way you think to change your future for the better. The way you judge yourself affects the makeup of your psyche - behavior affects the Brain, which crafts your addictions or recurring behavioral patterns.

Take a young beautiful lady, that thinks that her nose is too ugly and thinks that influences the way men think about her thus a shape her relationships for the worst. What this young lady doesn’t realize is that, her attitude towards her appearance, her nose in this case, belittles her entire existence. This can lead her to a place where she is emotionally unstable, and a social outcast due to her resolution about her outer appearance.

The pursuit of happiness begins with the pursuit of excellence. When an individual is unhappy about their outer physic, whether their female with masculine emotions or male with feminine emotions, it is imperative that a path to harmonize the physical and the self, in order to pave the right way to self-actualization is realized. To cast out self-criticism and find a balance with the three essential - Mental, Emotional and Physical. The point of excellence can be reached if one learns to acknowledge and synchronize the inner Self with the outer physic.Love yourself and eliminate the freakiness.

WORD TO A NEW SELF RESOLUTION REVOLUTION

By Linda Sakazi Thwala