In relationships couples tend to punish each other for the deeds that were committed by partners from their previous relationships. The torment brought on a new loving relationship by a previous relationship despairing experience, carters a weighing emotional encounter that brings a psychological inequity to their new relationship.
A distressing experience may vary from emotional abuse to physical or both - that was never addressed and dealt with properly to allow the process of healing to take place. The experience becomes a stigma of failure and shame in the lives, creating a impression of vulnerability in an individual’s personal makeup.
Some individuals, through emotional vulnerability become emotionally dependent on others, either a lover, spouse or family members – at times are most likely expected to fall into the same trap that they were trying to avoid; subsequently the circle of abuse becomes their lifelong effort of rubbing the evasive emotional, and at times clear physical dent from their personality framework.
An emotional heartbreak can lead to an individual losing the tidbits of their own emotional intelligence, that regulates their emotive aptitude and mental intelligence, thus create a personality imbalance, on their part, leading to an emotionally educed abnormally. Others plummet towards the margins of self-blame.
The emotional abnormally comes as a defense mechanism in an effort to eradicate the hurt that has created this seemingly immovable dent, which has shaped their entire existence. Therefore, the circle of hurting and being hurt is perpetuated unremittingly – when avoided.
It is through ‘reflective therapy’ that one may mend from such tormenting emotional heartbreaks, by breaking down the levels and indentations of that psychological and physical abuse. The process of mending does take time, and a great deal of effort if not faced straight on.
On the other hand, it’s funny how time doesn't really heal the most pertinent moment of relationship heartbreak, however renders a moment of reflection and growth - in relation to how it is taken and dealt with. At times the heartbreak is not given enough time of reflection, healing and emotional growth, therefore it becomes an enduring psychosomatic dent to an individual, hence a safety pin is manifested to an emotionally vulnerable individual – any pressure, the siren goes off, to safeguard the soft dent.
There is no total healing to despondent dents of emotional relationship heartbreaks – there is only time and space of reflecting and reaching a point of mental and emotional deducing as to why it happened, and how the dent of heartbreak can be applied to educate one emotionally, in order to avoid carrying it over to your next relationship.
It’s how you deal with the relationship heartbreak that gives you transcending growth in how you treat your other romantic relationships from the hurt that has altered your perception on love.
WORD TO A NEW EMOTIONAL HEALING PROCESS REVOLUTION
By Linda Sakazi Thwala
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