OUTRE' TRANSFORMATION

Animus, will make you do and say cretinous things with aplomb – to a degree of outré insanity. 

The irrational becomes the rational when you lose a sense of touch with reality.  However, the worst part is when a bunch of irrational minds gather to make their irrationality a propagation of truth.

One never knows what goes on inside a surreptitious mind of an individual, with sinister intent, until that individual opens their mouth to speak, or worse scenario, take action to put their point across.

In South Africa, there is a plethora of cultural diversity, that ranges from traditional customs, educational institutions, political affiliations, to religious unions.

Animosity towards any constituency, whether be it individual, traditional, religious, or political – to make those that do not subscribe and conform to your ideals of certain levels, and standards of societal cohesion and citizenship, is  to its own degree insanity.

There are various forms and platforms of dictatorship. Some come in a robust, instructive manner. Others come in a subtle richly manipulative manner.    

In the land that respects the rule of law, respects its constituencies, and respects it citizenry, governed by its Constitution and the Democratic process. No religious group, political, ethnic or traditional standing is above another. No colour is better than all the colours***

Matters of great concern, that will affect the masses and set a cultural-national-revolution, in a ‘democratic land', must be placed on the public platter for proper public scrutiny, debates and referendum – then and only then can the matter be propagated as law. Highlights, E-Tolling and Expropriation of Land*

A Cultural-National-Revolution is an inevitable action, in any land that is governed with rule of law – however, the implementation of a revolutionary action must be done with some level of sanity and rationality, that the end goal is achieved within the confines of the Democratic process in line with the Constitution, the law and concept  pertaining to a constitutional process.    

Adolf Hitler never implemented his animus attitude towards the Jews in the 1930’s Germany, that led to the World War II, Holocaust without the following of his Nazi masses and its leadership. An action that changed the whole world immeasurably. Madness took course because the irrational seemed all rational.  

Animus attitudes, are what leads the masses to public-hysteria, imposing behaviour, self-posed, smooth-tongued political, or religious, conventional insanity.

WORD TO A SPREAD LOVE REVOLUTION

Linda Sakazi Thwala

WHEN PRIDE IS NOT A DEADLY SIN

What do you say to an individual that has pride? Do you rebuke them for having that pride? Do you applaud them for being proud? What do you do?

Self-importance is a good personal character trait. As everything else in life, there are two sides to everything, hence there are two types of pride or self-importance, that can make or break an individual.

When an individual imbues a radiating pride that jells with their persona, parading an endearing confidence, coupled with respect for another fellow human being, and their belongings – that is good pride. A necessary confidence that will lead them to achieve their ambitions through life, and assist others to achieve their goals.

The negative side of pride, which is listed as one of ‘the seven deadly sins’, is when an individual has pride that destroys others and does not give a hoot, nor hinder in afflicting pain in anyway necessary – be it verbal, emotional, or physical.

Such pride and individuals that bestow such pride, do not want to listen or admit that have erred others or themselves.

When a man or a woman comes into your life and they have ‘pride of being’  that doesn’t necessary mean that they have disregard or disrespect for everything and everyone around them.

Pride is at time a reflection of self-love, and appreciation of what and who you are in life, and in the lives of others. Having pride is not a sin.

On the contrary, an individual can have pride, and be proud about themselves and their achievements but still humble themselves in the presence of those who are less fortunate and needy.  

Look around you. All individuals that have influence and are influential in other people’s lives encompass a little pride within themselves, pride that makes and builds empires.

Not pride that is obnoxious. Not pride that breaks and kills.

Pride that loves and nurture.

Have a little pride for yourself**

WORD TO THE PRIDE PARADE REVOLUTION     

Linda Sakazi Thwala

************************************I am Pride********************************************

INTENTIONS AIMED TO DIVIDE

When a culture of abuse is intentionally instilled, by parents who lack the values of discipline, within a household - it creates an unimpressionable environment that aims to destroy the minds and dreams of those who need guidance, and assurance towards their future.

When a parent’s intentions are aimed at destroying the lives of the children, without cushion, and reprimanding accountability, there is no hope in the family and lives of those children.

At times when a parent is frustrated and is put under strenuous mental, emotional pressure, certain decisions  made for the wellbeing, of their family and their children can be misconstrued, confusing and wrongly implemented.

Purposefully implementing a behavioural system, or a prometheus commitment that is misleadingly courteous, and favours one child from the other child/children, and intentionally creating an atmosphere that is rude and cruel for the other child/children – is one of the major parenting inaccuracy that needs to be dealt with in many households and parenting skills.

In countless Counselling sessions and discussions, with couples, parents and friends who are parents – preferential treatment, ‘favouritism’ is a key concern within the family framework, with single parents and presence of both parents.

Favouritism, has created a division in many households and families that has led to recurring emotional, verbal and physical abuse for decades.

Parenting and implementing good behavioural skills are reciprocal - being bias in conversational dealings with your children, and in reprimanding skills can and will lead to public embarrassments, misdirected anger and vast polarity between a child and their parent, as well as a child and their siblings.

It is an instinctive thing to love, nurture and protect your children as a parent (s) However, divided attention and divided love, can sway towards one child/children being ‘favoured’ more than another child/children are - drifting the family apart.

WORD TO THE INTENTIONAL DIVISION REVOLUTION

Linda Sakazi Thwala

THAT WOMAN, WHO CRIES WOLF

Beware of that woman who cries wolf. A woman that is a verbal and emotional abuser then do the community rounds claiming that they are being abused. 

 

The woman who cries wolf, is a claimer of being a victim of abuse. She knows that men are considered as chronic abusers - she acts out, she screams, she swears, she hails verbal and emotional abuse towards their victim, that is ‘male’ and poke prick provoke a reaction, then claims to be a victim. 

In my case, it’s my older sister who loves to cry wolf. She is a year older than I -  however in between our spats, she always imagines and claim that she is much, much older than actually known she is. As siblings we grew up side by side, differentiated by our sexes, behaviour and thought process.  

She has always seen me as her competitor, which is not a bad thing with other siblings, however in this case, the competitiveness between my ‘year older’ sister and I (who claims she is much, much older), has gone from a childish grudge not a place of ridiculous comparisons, blame shifting, spats and physical fights. 

One  would be ashamed and regretful of getting into a physical fight with a woman. With the kind of jealousy that my sister has, physical fights can never be avoided. Why?

Firstly, I am male and she is female. As children she has always needed attention at my expense, I did not mind. Secondly, as a brother I do not feature in anything personal that she does, unless she is attacked by a guy, or being crushed by a bus. Then. Only then, can Mister Hero spring into action.

Thirdly, I can never sleep with my own sister and bare children with her. Unless, it happens in an extreme case of, ‘we  did not know that we were related’. 

One can never air such dirty laundry in the public eye, however in this case, it must be aired because, I am accused of baring four children with this woman, who is my biological sister, who grew up next to me, and who has the ability to create her own path in life. 

Now in my case,  I have this sister who doesn’t want me to succeed as a brother. I don’t know, what did I do to deserve such a sister, but one thing I know - I can never be something my siblings want me to be. I can never be Gay when it suits my sibling, when in fact I love women; I can never be a father to children I did not bare with my sister; I can never stop my dreams and ambitions because my sibling is jealous; I can never vent my anger with my fists, when I have the advantage of a pen.....

A woman that is a verbal and emotional abuser then do the community rounds claiming that they are being abused.

I don’t have children, although i would love to have them, two in fact but I haven’t met the mother of my children yet, however that does mean I’m less of a human because of that.  And that doesn’t mean everything I do belongs to my sister and her children. It all belongs to me and my future wife.

Beware of the woman who cries wolf, but ain’t no wolf!

WORD TO THE WOLF PACK REVOLUTION 

Linda Sakazi Thwala

WOMAN…..WHAT TRUTH?

Women have a problem with hearing the truth. A majority of women do not want to hear the truth and that is a divine fact.  

It is every woman’s dream to be swapped away from their feet and carried to a life made of dreams. However, a question needs to be asked: At what cost does that life come into fruition? 

The  biggest reason why some women go into the hands of an abuser or a liar, is plainly clear, and that is , they don’t want a man that tells it like it is.

It is a humbling feeling to willow in a dream that presents no troubles, and offers an escapism from the reality and hustles that life proffer.

The truth offers no escapism in anything that you do in life. On the contrary, it is perhaps the truth that leads to a number of man, who are liars to their spouses, to abscond from their responsibilities of fatherhood, after the lie has ran its course. 

An example of this is - the widespread Global Economic problems that have limited the pockets of many men, as well as many women, have damped many relationship that were formed under a fail façade of mutual understand, and love.

No woman wants to hear their man telling them that “Baby we have no money.”   Why? The answer is simple: It presents the truth about their social status – no money. Most women these days, as compared to days of the “Struggle” opt to walkout of their relationships, find another man, rather than share what they have with their man in the relationship.

It is travesty! However, an everyday real travesty. It is as if, men are buying women for their affection. It don’t matter whether the man is good to the woman or not. You tell the truth! You are gone!     

There is a false notion in our social circles that ‘a woman with wealth and influence intimidates man hence man don’t want such women’. No, the truth is – such women do not want to hear a man telling them they financial worth less, than they are.  They’ll want the sex, but not the relationship. Hell, they’ll even pay you for it. Relationship? No!

This is the same reason why fifteen (15) broke women go into a relation with one wealthy man. He intimidates them, so they fake the love and the sex to get financial support. They lie. He lies.

The truth is – in today’s society the truth counts for nothing, consequently the uncanny increase to malevolent tendencies, and gender based violence in the bedroom, household, and eventually in our streets.

There can never be a humble conveyance between the sexes when there is a humongous lie revolving in the mist. Society has become a place of tit-for-tat. Where no one cares who is tat, or who is tat. 

 A man that tells it like it is and does what he says, has no place in our society anymore.

Reality bites: Women see themselves as men and they want to stripe men of their manhood.   

When you, as an individual commit to a relationship, commit to the truth of the relationship, neither to the lie you want to hear, nor the false dream you want to live in.    

Kwanele, Enough is Enough!

WORD TO THE TRUTH IS ENOUGH REVOLUTION

Linda Sakazi Thwala