I HAVE A MAN BUT DO OTHER MEN!!

I never knew that thinking of yourself first, especially when it comes to the vanity of upholding a good moral standard, it terms of relationships, makes one ‘self-centered’. I never knew that, not until a girl that I met in a taxi on my way home, who happens to live in my vicinity, sent me a rather confusing message, after I had suggested we exchange numbers and communicate for a while, she readily agreed.

A Short Message Service (SMS) beeped through my cell one evening, that read: “So I guess I’ll be losing out on a wonderful friendship but I can understand that, some people would rather have 0 (zero) contact than to continue in the direction extremely opposite to their expectation. I see this is a very familiar pattern with you and I’ve not known you long enough to come to any clear conclusion about you but don’t you ever feel like maybe you should do some introspection since the common denominator in the cycle is you. I’m not being judgmental or trying to play therapist but there are a few things you can do that might bring you different results next time. You can’t do the same thing over and over and expecting different outcomes. I am girl, I have a little knowledge about this breed but hey 0 (zero) contact is cool by me.”

Yes, I had formatted expectations about her, the third occasion I saw this graceful dark deliciously scholarly poised young lady in the same route home, with a book in hand. No, my expectations were not just a rudimentary friendship with just a woman. I wanted to know her and everything about her – what tinge made her body and soul tingle and appease; her likes and dislikes, her perceptions, optimism and skepticism about life.

I decided to give it a shot, give her a call and we initiated transverse cellphone conversations, stretching three weeks; chatting about this and that and everything under the sun, her biblical beliefs and library collection, her preferred emotive color and musical taste. Our conversations went on until, she earnestly, distinctly told me she was not seeking for a relationship with any other man because, she is in a long-term relationship with a guy that she evidently adored and had christened her “Man”.

When a woman tells you that she is in a loving relationship with her man, and is not seeking an alternative to what she has. And you are a ‘single’ guy, that had formatted dreamily ideas of falling in love, had stated your intentions initially, of being in a loving relationship with that same woman. Not a platonic relationship but, a fully fledged romantic courtship; and were told to quell those thoughts not for now or maybe later but forever, that means you are not getting anywhere.

Therefore, I politely asked this beautiful scholarly poised young lady to forget about me calling her and conversing with her about this and that and everything under the sun. Why? She unequivocally stated that she had a “man” that she unquestionably adored, and was not thinking of letting go anytime soon. “Zero contact” I pleaded with her.

Hence, the dubious reply that convicted my personality to the confines of “self-centered” dome. I was utterly flabbergasted! How can I be “self-centered” when I was single in status and she was in a supposedly loving relationship with a “man” she undoubtedly adores, however wants me to constantly call her for long late night chats? Am I missing something? Do you love your man or do you want me?

Vanity goes a long way, and one of these self-important ways is knowing that other people do have feelings too, especially other men - wrecking another man’s house falls short to self-importance.

I did an “introspection” after she told me she was in a “loving relationship” with a “man” that she faithfully adores very much, the common denominator in the cycle being her “man”, not I. Thus, decided that to save us getting into an emotional whirl-wind that will lead her to infidelity, I have to distance myself from this palpable ‘tragi-romance’ situation. I guess in retrospect, I failed to foresee that her intentions were to be unfaithful. If it means I am “self-centered” so be it.

WORD TO A NEW LOVING RELATIONSHIP REVOLUTION

By Linda Sakazi Thwala

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"The virtuoso of Politics worldwide: Rhetoric – Oil, Rhetoric – Military Power, Rhetoric – World Domination; whilst the rest of humanity are just pawns and casualties of an idiotic game of words, currency and bullets." Linda Sakazi Thwala

THE VIRTUOSO OF WORLDWIDE POLITICS

The world is marveling at Colonel Muammar Gaddafi’s stubbornness and resilience to stay in power, even after a vigorously convincing, bottom-shoe-showing-hailing revolt by the native masses of Libya; Libyans want him out, and others are gunning for his blood. Alas, Gaddafi will not concede to what the masses want, hence the military standoff between pro and anti Gaddafi Shia and Sunni Muslims that has amassed the state of Libya of late.

The Western world and United Nations Organization (UNO), has entered the fray, by sanctioning “No-Fly-Zones”, and wordy reprimands to Gaddafi’s forty-one year old administrative rule. Mainly due to Gaddafi’s rebellious history against western powers and any allies that lobbies for a westernized agenda upon self-governed African states, particularly his own state Libya.

The Forty-one year old authoritarian rule by Gaddafi has been clouded with clandestine terrorism activity, crimes against humanity and illegal procurement of mass destruction weaponry; hitherto, proven and unprosecuted connections of his involvement in the Lockerbie bombing and the disappearance and public executions of dissidents that renege against him and his dogmatic loyal regime, widely infamously broadcasted on state television. And his policy of aiding political assailants and assassins without compromise.

Colonel Muammar Gaddafi, leadership skills over the years has seen him expand his fortune to a multi-billion for himself and his entire family, the people of Libya rallying for him without questioning his intentions.

Ex-President Ronald Reagan nicknamed Gaddafi the, "Mad dog of the Middle East". Does the Middle East and Arabic nations share Reagan’s sentiments and analysis of Colonel Gaddafi?

The fact that Gaddafi and his dogmatic cronies are irrepressible; attacking the very people that toil, sweat and shed tears for their own country daily, shows the cold heartedness of Gaddafi and his government. What is the measure of a man that has lost his head in his own home? Gaddafi is a headless man, croaking unwanted sounds in his own home, thus his measure is to run around like a headless chicken, trying to grip and control tarnished chicks of dictatorship.

The wheel of change in Libya will be tainted, painted and scared with blood and wounds, some immortal others temporary, overflowing with murdered human casualties, whilst the west continues to sing its political rhetoric of change in the world, and the sky rocketing cost of living globally, keeps on pressing civilization to the edges of self and mass annihilation.

The prospects of Libya’s politics and liberation are surely moving towards the people of Libya winning their country back, however through a hard, long fought civil war that will see the country gaining its first ever democratically elected president – history in the making.

It is undeniable that the world’s tribulations are accredited to the Islamic community loathing the west, namely the United States of America, its policies, accrued business world domination and its westernized lifestyle; consequently the Arabic nations’ stance on protecting their own turf’s minerals and greatly sought-after Oil rich terrains, and refineries of the dry Arabic lands.

Colonel Muammar Muhammad al-Gaddafi is radically known for his distaste and malevolence against the western nations; and the west for its political rhetoric to seize and control other nations’ wealth generating sacks. Who’s fooling who?

The virtuoso of Politics worldwide: Rhetoric – Oil, Rhetoric – Military Power, Rhetoric – World Domination; whilst the rest of humanity are just pawns and casualties of an idiotic game of words, currency and bullets.

WORD TO A NEW LIBYAN REVOLUTION

By Linda Sakazi Thwala

Love is an everyday thing
It is now, it is sweet, it is true
It is a fountain of all senses
A tranquil delightful stream
Love is eternal in its youth
Flawless exuberance of youth
Its words are all soulful, nation
It is now, it is sweet, it is true
It makes one bold in their hunting
It comes, with your heap’s canvass
Love’s mixed footsteps flaunting
It leaves one winched in an elation
The heart beat geared to eruption
Its destined spectrum called trance
Our hot body drooling to its trounce
A tangled dance in its royal feet
It is red wrapped in a white sheet
Love is an everyday thing
It is now, it is sweet, it is true

by Linda Sakazi Thwala

THE POLITICS OF POWER – THE UNITED STATES VERSUS THE WORLD

The dwindling of the world’s economy has been extensively attributed to the United States’ failure to distinguish, political and social commonality with the Arab/Muslim nationalities, internationally – especially Islamic extremists. Foreign political fallibility, particularly pertaining to Oil reefs, and to the United States’ Foreign Aid policies, cannot be solely pointed towards one state, country, or political party; as all fiscal or non-fiscal foreign policies are negotiated as cross national bipartisan negotiations. However, the United States Military advantage has created allegiances and allies far more reaching, combined with their international Economic Aid, and Foreign Aid policies.

The power that the United States of America wields in the Military and Macroeconomic arena, places them at an advantage in terms of Economic prosperity, and playing liberator to politically, economically trenched nations, with the dollar being the second strongest currency in the world. Therefore, in enables the country to gain territorial progression in lesser militarized regions, globally.

The chess boards of political advantage, however powerful they may be set towards the United States’ gains, do not advocate the world to be idle and docile around the table of discourse and implementation of Foreign Economic Aid, and Foreign Trade Policies.

African and Arab leaders who become tyrants against their own population, often together with the oppressed masses, reproach the USA’s economic aid activities and their Foreign Policies, when everything else fails in their respective states. What the populous does not identify with, before the finger is pointed, is the nitty-gritty surrounding the policies that were set during all foreign aid policy discourse, thus aim at deficiently inverting the failure of their leaders, on the very hand that brings peace and harmony in their territory.

If truth be told, the world doesn’t really know Osama Bin Laden and Al-Qaeda’s renege against the United States of America. The Bush to Bush (George H. W. Bush and George W. Bush, father and son) administrations were coiled in negotiations with Bin Laden family, the Oil reefs of Saudi Arabia were centralized as being the main cause to Osama’s rebelliousness, ultimately his militia terror attacks towards the USA. What really happened between Osama and the Bush family after his military training in the United States? Yes, the Republicans or the ‘Grand Old Party’ (GOP) were involved, as many Oil trade policies were administered by them during these family affiliated presidential incumbency. However, foreign conflicts are widely opposed by GOP.

The current uprising in Egypt is unanimously blamed not at the tyrant leader, Mubarak’ s failure to acknowledge his country’s Economic shortcomings, and the widening gap between the poorest of the poor and the privileged rich in that country, but at the United States and GOP in particular. Why is Mubarak still in office after three decades?

The United States will always be a scapegoat, whether Independents, Democrats or Republicans. Why don’t we Africans and Arab nations, acknowledge that our leaders’ agreements and signatures to discourse and implementation on Foreign Policies is clouded with intent of filling their own greedy sacks, and not improving the lives of the masses. Mark these words: ‘The Muslim Brotherhood, will be blaming President Barack Hussein Obama and the Democrats, if and when they do take the reins from Mubarak.’

WORD TO A NEW ECONOMIC REVOLT REVOLUTION

By Linda Sakazi Thwala

SOUTH AFRICA: The course to a sustainable Economic Growth-Path

Developing the right economic Growth-Path for South Africa’s volatile Economy will prove a significantly taxing task, given the past’s pre-Democratic policies of Separate Development and Free-For-All attitude that come post-1996.

A strategic approach to formatting the correct formula to a sustainable Economic Growth-Path that will create jobs for the currently unemployed; measurably creating a sustaining employment economic development opportunities for posterity, is what South African bureaucrats are searching for.

With ante-investment partners that supported the banality of Westernize development-economic-policies to Africa, experiencing an economic submergence due to an economic global crunch. The prospects of world leaders to lessening the deficit between socially thriving economic hubs and lower impoverished class within their respective countries, was thwarted by market trading hikes stemming from unreasonable global Oil-Fuel-Hikes over the past decade, filtering austerely to industrial, trade and investment sectors worldwide.

This brought about worldwide austerity, with a great number of lower class and some middle-class families unable to sustain themselves from daily, monthly expenditure with their meager disposable income – hence, the recent Austerity Protests in England, Greece, China, and the well publicized chaotic economic revolt in Egypt, where anti-Mubarak protesters want the incumbent President booted out.

The Growth-Path is aimed at creating sustainable employment and aid in developing essential township infrastructure and speedup service delivery across Municipal structures. South Africa’s incumbent leadership, in keeping with the current successful economic growth trends, has to dilute regional boundaries that were formations of Separate Development in the past, and decrease economic volatility by implementing a reasonable fixed price-trade-agreement policies to most imports, to eliminate losses, price rigging, and maintaining concurrent pricing in all respectable trades, and food pricing – value differences must be distinct, however not exploiting ordinary plebs. With a fixed Electricity Rates services across the board, in all Municipalities in our country and bring competition in the Power Generating Plants industry – we cannot allow Eskom monopolize the Power Generating Industry and suffocate electricity consumers by hiking its rates, inconveniently plunging families, communities and businesses into darkness.

A developmental approach to diluting regional boundaries is to allow Macroeconomic hubs to flourish, with the removal of Recruitment Agencies. It is governments social responsibility to instruct the corporate sector to recruit, train and deploy workers within their own capacity, utilizing their own ‘Human Resource Departments’, as it was done in the past. By so doing, all these salary share pillaging Recruitment Agencies will be abolished, allowing a worker to earn the salary that was initially allocated to them – not a salary allocated by the Recruitment Agency. This will increase skills training and allow workers to balance the ratio of expenditure and lifetime savings. The situation at this moment, is hand-to-mouth for many families.

In the townships, micro-businesses i.e. vendors, with fake goods have to be close down and allow proper aspirant business owners to bring it accredited goods to the township consumer that cannot ferry themselves to town.

Our Housing policy needs to be scrutinized considerably and lowered to an affordable price for all South African. A house, as it is known appreciates in value, thus it is deemed as a good asset for investment, however how can one invest on something that is monetary unattainable, even if you were to save to attain it. Real Estate prices are appalling. This coupled by monthly Property Tax – in hindsight Property tax is the same as renting your own house, from the government, whilst paying a bond on that same house.

WORD TO A NEW ECONOMIC GROWTH PATH REVOLUTION

By Linda Sakazi Thwala

THE STIGMA OF BEING AN ABUSER

It is a monastic attitude to attach a label on any individual that rebels against a system of abuse; in any abusive form. It is a universal ideological stand point that an abuser is made – no woman or man, wakes up and decide that today, I am going to be an abuser.

A fundamental question to ask is: ‘Why does an individual become an abuser?’ It is a pragmatic concept of fighting fire with fire. When an individual lives in a secluded environment and is constantly being bombarded with impromptu verbal abuse about things that do not concern them, or things that do not have any bearing on their livelihood; it creates verbal altercation which ends up with someone getting slapped or gravely beaten up.

What a Verbal Abuser doesn’t comprehend, is that when you shout at a another person without explaining or communicating your concerns in a proper grown up way, they create a mental confusion to the recipient of that verbal attack. In the cloud of that confusion nothing the Abuser says is coherent because of the way it is communicated, alternately renders a similar reaction from the shouted-at-recipient or abused.

In most cases, women are Verbal Abusers to their spouses and at times to their siblings. Some women want their way out of a relationship hence succumb to verbal abuse as an instructive or defense mechanism, to ‘this is what I want and I am going to get it, as I want it’; or as frustration to what life is dishing up for them, ‘I am not content with you, so I am going to shout at you to make you leave me or make you change’.

No one wants the stigma of being an abuser, however when an individual goes into a home environment, they want to lay back, do an introspection and retrospection about their life, what’s to come in their life, and how to approach certain situations. No one wants to go into their homely environment and be verbally attacked or shouted at about things that they cannot change.

When I am a sensible, quiet man and my woman comes and shouts at me, my initial reaction would be: ‘What is going on? What does she want? Why are you shouting?’ And if that shouting continues I am inadvertently going to get angry at ‘what are you shout at me for?’ I will take my hat and walk away, however if my woman sees that picture of walking away as some form of weakness; constantly wants a reaction from me as man, night after night, week after week: ‘I am shouting at you! What? You not man enough to stop me?’ The mouth is mightier than the hand.

The stigma of abuser will fall on me as a man because, by societies standards I am physically stronger than my weakling woman that shouts to stir up trouble – then cites abuse as justification to what happened in the relationship. My man is an abuser, not me, him! The hand is mightier than the mouth.

Conclusively, an abuser is a victim of another abuser. Relationships are based upon reciprocal attitudes. When you treat me with respect, I will in turn reciprocate that respect to you. Taking my hat and walking away in the heat of an argument, is an ideal honorable thing to do when you are verbally harassed. However when you continuously give me fire, I will undoubtedly overtime return that fire with a more vicious intent. Why? Because, I am also a sensual human being that feels, and that doesn’t want to be verbally, emotionally harassed.

Abusers are made, therefore when an individual wants to instigate a violent reaction towards another individual, they do that as a cry out for help. They do not know better than perpetuating the same abuse that was reciprocated to them.

WORD TO A NEW RESPECTFUL RECIPROCAL REVOLUTION

By Linda Sakazi Thwala

THE ETHEREAL IN THE SELF

The self is eternal, therefore manifests its self in a dream state, or what Neuro-scientific observers term as, the “subconscious mind”; which in every probable terms is the intuitive self. Dreams are an integral element of the intuitive self, attributed at shaping a big part in our lives, and do contribute to the buoyancy and lethargy of how one views their subsistence and reality in life. Dreams are the physics of our existence.

Dreams are manifested in two forms: firstly ‘Prophetic Dreams’, when the self transverse conversations and visions of the unknown to its subject or temple that the eternal self inherits, to an individual’s physique and psychological process, implanting a futuristic event into their living being.

This previous form of self manifestation benefits the inheritor in their conscious or awake state, as they are able to reflect on what their authentic self is communing to them, and what it expects from its incumbent form of its inherent purpose of being. The actions needed to quell unwanted eventualities that may hinder the incumbent’s ambitions in life. At times older forms of the Self are highlighted within these ethereal dreams, unknowingly to the incumbent that their older form is rekindling its self with its latest appearance via the subconscious, recurring at times as nightmares or psychological infestations of a previous lifetime, that most likely culminated in a disastrous manner, or yearning for something or someone.

Secondly, dreams manifest themselves as ‘Mental Process Dreams’, which are entrenched by a constant pestering event in your life or a consistent thought process about a thing or something, troubling or not so troubling, that lingers over your livelihood. These types of dreams often become recurring stressful dreadful nightmares that are linked to the Self; when your decisions in life do not coincide with the inherent aims of the Self. As the result, the conscious and the subconscious gnaw away at the imbalance between the spiritual and physique.

‘Mental Process Dreams’ are attributed to numerous psychological traumas (e.g. rape, verbal and physical abuse) base on the fact that individual’s experiences are not inherent, and what they witness daily cannot be selected to avoid what may trigger such deviations. Deviations that are suffused by the pool of trauma witnessed by an individual, thus trickle into the subconscious or intuitive self – where the lethargic part of dreams is borne.

It is through the ethereal of dreams that superstitions about life are constituted; where madness and sanity is undoubtedly distinctly defined. It is where dreams are manipulated to create the eerie diabolical, voodoo ideologies about natural and extraordinary happenings within our environment.

‘Prophetic Dreams’ bear more meaning than ‘Mental Process Dreams’ – consequently, are the ones that are symbolical and enigmatic in form, at times loquaciously expressed, needing an explanation and proper decoding. Failure to decode such dreams leads to a bigger physical and mental confusion, because the attachment and emphasis that people place to such dreams is humongous, as it forms a part of peoples’ spiritual, religious connotations and convictions – their hopes, dreams and aspirations.

The Self eternal is the light and buoyancy of ‘Prophetic Dreams’ and helps in forging a balance between the abundance of self-growth, content-love, and the realistic expectations that are evident in our environment. These ‘Prophetic Dreams’ are an integral element of the intuitive self, self-love, self-consistency, self-expediency, self-worth, acting-love, and transcending love. A greater component to your Happiness.

WORD TO A NEW DREAM STATE REVOLUTION

By Linda Sakazi Thwala

http://www.facebook.com/SAKAZI

THE SELF ETERNAL - HAPPINESS

In this neo-spiritual generation, to tap into your inner eternal self, is a quite tasking spiritual practice, due to the type of environment that we live in and the common dependency that individuals place on worldly stuff. The bustling dynamics of today’s society, place more emphasis on looking outwardly rather than focus on the well-being of one’s spiritual self and its prosperity in the eternal realms – the inner Self.

Tapping into the inner Self, through a soothing daily routine of listening to the inner voice, remits one with the ability to self-awareness and self-fulfillment; meaning the ability for one to reach a spiritual assertion, where they are able to converse with their own light, enabling one to make sound, channeling and enhancing choices for their livelihood in a content, growth filled process.

This process of tuning and channeling your inner light as an axis that pivots your thoughts and your actions, enables an individual to reach the hub that will procreate self-confidents, thus give support for ones pursuit, attaining and maintaining reasonable, content growth, with understandable maturity and transcending love.

The Self has multitudes of positive light, radiating inner happiness in everything that one does to get by in life with positive energy and positive thoughts. The intuitive Self or Inner Positive Self has the strength and spiritual impression to enable an individual to apply self-resilience, self-sacrifice and self-reliance to everything that has pessimism or optimism in the choices that one makes. This multitude of positive light affirms Self- Love: The importance of loving yourself and the advancement of the inner light to the outer bodily actions that forge and form your existence.

An absolute approach to finding the right love is to rip your-self of earthly possessions and find a way to assert your individual innate self into your ‘realistic-self’ or ‘authentic-self’. And this holistic approach involves the self eternal happiness that is always readily available to ground you, as an individual during the flight of a turbulent emotional, mental and physical storm.

Your thinking and outlook affects your quality of life; also your failure to tap into your inner light affects your perceptive objective in ways that you can ever imagine. The multitudes of positive light needed to uplift you, dwindles when you cannot understand and appreciate your Self, and learn to adjust your own light in agreement with your three essentials.

The self eternal has content-love in abundance; tapping into it reassures one of self-love, self-consistency, self-expediency, self-worth, acting-love, transcending love and the pursuit of outwardly happiness. Self eternal happiness eliminates suicidal thoughts by helping a troubled individual fight the temptations of darkness from within and let the inner, intuitive light shine through the right actions and choices. It is only in our sacred secrete space, when we reflect on our journey and hopes in life, that we experience real growth and inner happiness.

At the end of the day, happiness starts with you as an individual. No one can fulfill you or make you happy unless you find that happiness first. When you radiate that happiness towards people around you, they also find happiness. Let us move towards the forever light, content-love and self-fulfilling happiness.

WORD TO A NEW INNER HAPPINESS REVOLUTION

By Linda Sakazi Thwala

THE NEED TO HEAL IN SELF

It is a realistic principle that a human individual condition needs others to survive, and exalt the joys of life by every means, ways practicable and imaginable. In healing ourselves, a commonality in how we perceive certain realistic nuances, and in upholding a united front in our pursuit, attaining and maintain reasonable, content growth, through maturity and transcendent in love. And through the understanding that in all traumatic and tragic missteps in our easy and difficult strolls in life, we stoke up different experiences and realities that pulls each one of us away from the commonality goal of a united front, distinctively setting each individual apart from the other individual – emotional needs and wants.

Before applying healing processes, an individual needs to acknowledge what has been dented; which specific area needs attention and healing; whether Emotional, Mental or Physical. One has to be willing to heal or be healed, after a dented area is recognized and after accepting their emotional deficiency or shortcomings.

Injury caused by others, or self inflicted is injury to the Self. As a result, injury to the Self fragments the psychological makeup of any individual, which at times defrauds one of their physical existence. When an individual is hurting, healing seems a daunting task because, emotional scars darken ones inner Self and ones subsistence in its entirety.

Emotional deficiency, is your emotional deprivation formed by the inability to deal with traumatic occurrences or lacking support and inner strength to deal with emotionally and mentally overpowering situations. In healing we need support from others through their physical presence and conversations; however in healing an individual is their own ultimate enemy – as noted, through a state of self-denial and self-loathing.

To initialize healing processes we first need to heal in Self. Trauma of any kind, is cause for one to loathe their inner Self, themselves, others and despise their own surroundings, which makes it extremely difficult for one to see light at the end of the tunnel. To heal in Self, others may offer verbal inferences on how one should take steps towards mending their own emotional and mental deficiencies, the end result being uttered suggestions through uplifting conversations. No one can take an individual to a place of healing, unless that individual is willing to walk that road to a healing place. To mend the Self starts with restoring ones inner elusive nuances, and resolves, by the same individual that is suffering.

In every individual there is an inner voice that drives your core. The inner voice is the center of your temple and who you are deeply. It is the inner voice that needs to be transcended from what is known as darkness to a better alternative known as light. The dark side of the voice reflects negatively in everything and everyone; then there is the light side of the voice, which reflects everything that is positive and drives your intuitive Self – where healing must begin.

The intuitive Self or Inner Positive Self has the strength to enable an individual to apply self-resilience in every calamitous trauma that they come across. True healing starts with attentively listening to your authentic intuitive voice, Self; to enable you to gain inner strength and radiate that positive energy towards an environment or individual that has faltered your emotions, and physic.

A psychological retrospection and introspection of an individual through counseling sessions, can help digress steps of an individual journeying towards a dark rough verge, preventing a probable fall to their premature, hopeless, self-loathing, self-denying death. The intuitive Self begins with listening to the inner voice, thus taking the right choices that one comes across to, meaning listening to the positive and not the negative to permit the right holistic path to healing – emotionally, mentally and physically.

WORD TO A NEW PROCESS OF HEALING REVOLUTION

By Linda Sakazi Thwala

NELSON MANDELA'S CONVERSATIONS WITH MYSELF

“In real life we deal, not with gods, but with ordinary humans like ourselves: men and women who are full of contradictions, who are stable and fickle, strong and weak, famous and infamous.” NELSON MANDELA

OBJECTS OF RIDICULE

To go through life haven’t had somebody who loves and cherish the ground you walk on, somebody that loves you for who you are, somebody that reciprocate your acting-love in a way that makes you feel and know that you are appreciated. Some individuals are fortune to find such love and relationships that carter to them such emotional maturity; however what happens to an individual that is viewed as an object of ridicule in every relationship that they venture into.

When does an individual know that they are an object of ridicule in their relationships? It does not matter what anyone says or do – in any relationship, you are an object of ridicule when your friend (s), spouse or relative (s) expects you to always supply them with what they want without ever thinking about your needs and how you feel when they demand things from you. You are an object of ridicule, when you constantly have to nag people around you and in your life to appreciate you and distinguish you as an equal in how you perceive life. You are an object of ridicule, when your opinion does not matter to the people you perceive as equals and respect in love and in any work environment. You are an object of ridicule when you always have to compromise, when no one is willing to meet your compromise halfway.

When your partner sees you as object of bodily and oral abuse, an object that is vocally lambasted, emotionally bastardized, psychologically raped from its inner self and outer façade. You are not only an object ridicule but, an insignificant person to them and everyone in your social standing that allows such violent nature take unsolicited control over your existence. You are an object of ridicule when emotional, mental and physical social vagabonds think and treat you as an object that is subjected to rape, incest, sodomy, and spiritual-bodily-torture.

Recently, young children in Pretoria were allegedly used as objects of sexual ridicule, when they were reported as being abused in an repulsive pornographic manner, by adults that were supposedly expected to nurture, protect and guard them as children.

When any individual, for all else that matters, sees you as a good for nothing human object, except as an object of psychopathic orgasmic pleasure, similar to the porn videos that are popular with sex addicts around the world, or are expected to an ATM machine whenever you enter into any conversation with your ‘friend’ (s), or family members; then you are not in relationships that will give you emotional sustainability, and growth that is needed to bring you inner and outer fulfillment in your life.

You are an object of ridicule when you are beaten, overused and misused, without being shown any gratitude for who you are and what you are to those you appreciate and fraternize with. A man that picks up rubbish, is as important as the man that writes the law of the land and as important as the man that implements, delegates that same law. A woman that bares you children is more important and more opulent as the diamond and gold you place in her finger.

There comes a point in your relationships, when and where you have to stand your ground as an individual and demand to be respected and loved as much as you give respect and give love – demand to reciprocate emotionally and physically what is ricochet towards you.

No woman, no man are objects of ridicule to any individuals that walks, breathes, and lives as they do. Eliminating destructive tendencies that ridicules other people should be every person’s ultimate goal to aid in ministering a path of self-sacrifice, self-love and transcending-love. Transcending love that is love and light, emanating from within - growth that knows that you can only maintain who you truly are without destroying the world around you or treating others as objects of ridicule.

WORD TO A NEW HUMANE OBJECTIVE REVOLUTION

By Linda Sakazi Thwala

RESILIENCE WITHIN THE SELF

An individual’s resilience within their own Self begins within themselves. Emotional negligence does cannot be exclusively be attributed to your parents, or to people that brought you up. Mental and emotional breakdown can be traced to an individual’s inability to comprehend and acknowledge the events or emotional situation that led to their emotional trauma, and the role they had to play for them to be in that situation.

It is undeniable that Psychopathic Tendencies are taught over a period of constant abuse, and emotional negligence by people that an individual perceived as their guardians, or loved ones – where an individual is constantly assailed with negative psychological and physical abuse. A child has no control over what happens to their livelihood and their living environment.

Psychopathic tendencies are malevolently entrenched during the fragile years of infancy and teenage years. When irresponsible adults impose their immoral, filthy habits upon youngsters, that do not have an inkling on how or what life entails. It is during these fragile years that a future abuser or pedophile is magnetism by the forces of abuse, dictating what they will be to society in the future; however during the teenage years, peer-pressure does play a fundamental psychological role in shaping a young person’s mental and behavioral aptitude and approach towards others and towards life.

An abuser kills the little resilience that a youngster has by constantly showing them the dark side of life, through remittent psychological disillusionment that was taught to them by other abusers. Through peer-pressure, youngsters want to be recognized and accepted by the fellow peers, therefore go out of their own moral belief to try and please their friends, hence conform to how their friends perceive life to be. It is through peer-pressure that youngster become abusers of drugs, and show signs of promiscuity, which does lead to a premature infection related death.

Life is immersed with positive things that can build a youngster to be an self-accountable, self-dependable, respectable and self-restraint individual within their community. It is through accountable, dependable, respectable individuals that youngsters learn to be a moral fabric to society. On the other hand, life is full of individuals that think that treating others badly is a normal thing to do. Life is a pendulum between goodness and wickedness.

To teach Self-resilience in youngster, adults need to know the limitations between good parenting and bad parenting. Adults need to know when to institute Tough-Love that is loving and not destructive Tough-Love. Adults need to know their own self-restraint and their own self-resilience. To eliminate unwanted emotional, mental and physical social environmental impacts, such as rape, verbal abuse, alienation, and physical abuse in any form – that do contribute to weakening ones spirit. That help in shaping a youngster’s perception, thus their personality. Adults/Guardians have to be uncompromising nurturing individuals to self-resilience to their children and for their children.

Self-resilience begins with you as an individual, however that resilience needs to be taught from a young age – meaning, physical and psychological nurture and protection for a youngster from infancy through to their teenage years. Self Destructive and Self Positive Criticism also contributes to Self-resilience. And builds Self-restraint for an individual through their adult years. Self-restraint needed to eliminate abusive tendencies.

WORD TO A NEW SELF-RESILIENT REVOLUTION

By Linda Sakazi Thwala